One more incidence of a woman been mistreated, now yet
another opportunity for the media to have debates over women security, how the
government and police are not competent to set things right. It even sets the
stage for all our intellectuals to give their perspective on women liberation,
conservative and chauvinist men etc. It even becomes a breeding ground to all
self-defence programs for women and increasing sales of pepper sprays etc.
The focus is completely on the person who has got abused and
the person who has abused.
In any given society we would always have few people who are
mentally sick and are beyond correction. It was shocking to know that the
accused in the Bangalore incidence did this act because it was a Dare
given. If these men can step on a
woman’s dignity to satisfy their adrenaline rush of winning a dare, we all can
imagine what mind-set these people come from. All these defective characters
can’t be corrected nor be eliminated. They would continue to be an integral
part of our society.
In the same society we shall even have women who are subdued
by nature; they would be the last ones to raise their voice or stand for their
rights. It may happen because of their upbringing, culture, their own
experience in life or been subdued is an integral part of their DNA. While the
progressed and educated society always expects the entire female fraternity to
be strong and standing for their rights, few of them just can’t make it to the
progressed society’s expectation of been strong.
Now, in a society where morons (beyond correction) and
subdued women prevail together, the million dollar question remains what is to
be done. The police force is always there to support and protect but the fact
of the matter is we just can’t have one policeman per woman. Again we come back
to the million dollar question, what can be done.
Morons and Subdued women together in the same society, how do
we avoid any mistreatment towards women?
The larger problem I observed while viewing the Bangalore
incidence clipping was there were 2-3 guys who got captured at the end of the
street and they didn’t do anything about it. I was aghast the way they just
were bystanders while the morons were misbehaving.
Our country is known for its tolerance towards many things
however the 3 – 4 guys, who got captured as by-standers in the video, were they
really tolerant or were they cowards. Under the garb of showing tolerance are
we really becoming cowards? Have we developed multiple reasons for hiding our
fear? I still keep wondering that these by-standers didn’t even feel like
giving a loud shout which could have saved the situation a bit.
This takes me back to my childhood days.
I stayed in Dadar for more than 30 years, rather a Dadar
born. I lived in one of the most crowded areas, as my house was stone-throw
away from Dadar Station. Due to been densely populated it was a heaven for pick
pocketers, chain snatchers etc. One of the greatest childhood entertainments
for me was standing in the window of my 3rd floor house and peeping
out of the window to some chaos happening on the road. The chaos would
typically be that a person was caught snatching a chain or robbing something. The
robber is running ahead and public is running behind him to beat him.
Eventually, the robbers developed a repulsion towards robbing not because they
became ethically sane but because they got scared that if they are caught
robbing PUBLIC BAHUT MAREGI (Public will beat them crazily).
PUBLIC, a gathering of stranger that do not have any name,
identity or face. They are all individuals who are just trying to reach at some
personal destination, but the moment they hear a cry for help all these
individuals suddenly come together and become public and come to the rescue of
the aggrieved person. The robbers of my
childhood days minimized their robbing activities because they were scared of
getting caught and beaten up by the public.
Today, as a father of
a school going kid I keep wondering where this PUBLIC has disappeared and even
if Public still exist why are these jerks no more scared. Has the erstwhile
Public now taken up the role of a by-stander? Why are these morons not scared
of public anymore? Have they taken the power of public for granted? Has public
forgotten its power of togetherness? Or we really don’t want to be a part of
public as the women of my house and known circle hasn’t got impacted yet.
I am a middle-aged not so physically fit man. I am not a
celebrity or a rich man. I don’t know any form of martial art or self-defence
technique. I don’t even have a licensed pistol or know how of any other weapon
usage. But guess what, I have the intent and the courage to be a part of the
public who will scare the shit out of the morons who would try to abuse any
woman.
As the dialogue of Sholay says, Yahan se pachas pachas kos door gaon mein ... jab
bachcha raat ko rota hai, toh maa kehti hai bete soo ja ... soo ja nahi toh
Gabbar Singh aa jayega. In the same way all morons should get scared
thinking better behave nahi toh Public aa jayega.
I want to be a part of Public which will make a moron think
twice before committing any crime against women, if you wanna be a part of the
public who can keep the morons at bay, join public.
Sachin,
ReplyDeleteWell thought..and it's true don't know what kind of fear is in the mindset of people that they refuse to help and just be a spectator.More disturbing is the day to day need 4year girl raped and been found dead.whats happening..these days with elders..women..children is disheartening.guess United we stand and move these junksaway.
Yes...at times even a shout even if its from a distance may help.
DeleteSachin,
ReplyDeleteWell thought..and it's true don't know what kind of fear is in the mindset of people that they refuse to help and just be a spectator.More disturbing is the day to day need 4year girl raped and been found dead.whats happening..these days with elders..women..children is disheartening.guess United we stand and move these junksaway.
Hi Sachin, women safety is the critical issue which our Indian law has failed to address. Reading today on 4 years girl rape has really disturbed me. My heart cried for that girl and her parents too. We can only stop this with the help of law which will hang these culprits in public so that no one dares such act. The law need to be modified with severe punishments. We as a citizen should also be alert and come together to fight and save the girl if any incident is taking place. Your article is giving us the strength to come united and pushes us to help needy.
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Thanks Jyotsna for sharing your thoughts. Indeed been alert to what is happening even in our surrounding may help, as most of these incidence don't even get reported and the victim is left to the mercy of irresponsible people. I am happy if it gives us the thought of been united.
DeleteWell expressed.
ReplyDeleteThanks Vishal..
DeleteOnly our actions will speak...... remember we will set examples for the generations that follow !
ReplyDeleteAgreed Shahrukh...will ensure my son will feel good that his father was not a by-stander..
DeleteVery well written Sachin.
ReplyDeleteIn my view, the reason that there is increase in such incidents is because our law in the matter is not only corrupt but does not punish the offender's adequately. We know of the famous Nirbhaya case which was indeed a henious crime but even after 4 years, to the best of my knowledge, the victims are yet to.be hanged. One of the offender's was not even an adult as per the norms in place & was sent to the juvenile court/home. If the so called juvenile could do such a crime, wander why should he be treated as a juvenile any more?
On the by standers piece I suppose it is largely because we ourselves are not impacted hence we don't bother and also because we don't know what weapon the offender may be carrying? We have heard/read of cases wherein minor skirmishes of road rage have led to shooting incidents leading to death.
To conclude, thw law has to become stronger & justice rolled out fast to have an effect.
Thank you Sir for your sharing your thoughts. Agreed that the law needs a major change and there is no scare of the law in these perpetual offenders. Not sure how to go ahead with this herculean task but I guess if all contribute their own wisdom towards this cause I am sure things can change.
DeleteI echo each word that you have written Sachin! I so much wish our laws were strong as these words and it ensured the right punishment to these offenders.. The fear of the public remains today, as they are held responsible and required to give statements over statements and the offenders by means of no strict action walk out free..
ReplyDeleteReally hope the action speaks stronger than the words, which will bring a scare to the spine for such offenders to even think about such an act.
By all means I am one among the Public and ensure will not stand as a bystander for any wrong happening around me and will ensure that I pass on the values of Respecting Human Being with whom I am connected with.
Thanks Sangeetha, I am happy you choose not be a bystander. I completely agree to passing on the core value of respecting human beings.
DeleteCaptivating thoughts Sachin, we all need to be part of this PUBLIC.
ReplyDeletePrimarily after the Nirbhaya case the focus has shifted to women safety. It will with likes of you Sachin that with examples and sharing your voice...That maybe we can transform into a vigilant PUBLIC in few years....Not just for women safety but everything else which can go wrong.
Wishing all of us to become such a role model to our future generations.
May the moronics get beaten up and highlighted for Justice by PUBLIC
Thanks Nivi for agreeing to be part of public. I completely subscribe to your thought of been vigilant public and been role models for our next generation.
DeleteHi! Sachin! Indeed, your thoughts have indeed strengthened my view of our societial decay in terms of reducing Spiritual Quotient thereby depleting the larger masses who do not have (strangely lost) the courage to speak out or save the victim. However, with due respect to your article, I do believe that the same is an extension of what is happening all around in our lives as when some of the so called learned fraternity decides to be "politically silent" when they they know that an innocent bystander(irrespective of gender) is being trampled upon very conveniently in the name of stepping on the "Corporate Ladder" and the so called "intelligent" ones chose to be silent, we need to think hard, that whether these "intelligent" ones would have the courage to be different or daring enough to raise their views and not just criticize the "wierd ones". I completely agree to join the movement with a pun to ensure that each one of us also begins a "Change in our Sphere of Lives" as someone wiser said much earlier " True Character is what one does when he/she knows no one is Watching You." .....and Most Importantly " We need to be the Change that we Wish to see....",Thanks
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Hi Girish...thank you for sharing your perspective. I completely agree that at times we end up using our so called intelligence not to get this done but use it for creating logics as to why it shouldn't be done. We need to be different and daring to raise our views and opinions in the most honest way.
ReplyDeleteVery well expressed Sachin. Yes, I want to be a part of a responsible public. Yes, the laws need to be more robust. But bystanders should still take the right action for whatever is happening in front of my eyes.
ReplyDeleteVery well expressed Sachin. Yes, I want to be a part of a responsible public. Yes, the laws need to be more robust. But bystanders should still take the right action for whatever is happening in front of my eyes.
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